tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post2561356125111968452..comments2023-12-08T05:01:22.204-05:00Comments on Puffer and the Baby Fish: Ranting and Reeling.Pufferfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03534200400439443949noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-36453279953749084412009-05-28T22:01:28.148-04:002009-05-28T22:01:28.148-04:00What assholes. I mentioned to Cindyloohoo that I h...What assholes. I mentioned to Cindyloohoo that I have figured out why we aren't preggo yet and I have mapped out a new plan. Ready? <br />1. loose job and go on wellfare<br />2. 2 move back to mom's OR live in our car<br />3. work on getting a drug or drinking problem<br />4. encourage Cat to do the same<br />5. start eating fast food for every meal<br />6. but sperm from 5 donors and pour it all on at the same time so that when I get knocked up, because you know I would if I followed this plan, I won't have any idea who the father is. <br /><br />What do you think? Are you in?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-55405555064311323812009-05-27T02:45:35.728-04:002009-05-27T02:45:35.728-04:00There is nothing that hurts quite as badly as this...There is nothing that hurts quite as badly as this. My not-at-all-responsible, always spoiled younger sister announced to me that she was pregnant on a day when I had gotten a negative--it was the latest of a long string of them--and I was devastated. Everyone was expected to rally around her while she brought the first grandchild into the family, and all J and I could do was scream and cry and mourn our loss of that position, or our chance to shine. <br /><br />I didn't mean to make this about me--It's just that I know these feelings so very well, and I am so very sorry that you have to experience them. This isn't fair in the least. None of it is, and it especially isn't fair that K doesn't get the treatment she deserves. Sending you many hugs and much understanding.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-39359504287245367162009-05-26T22:20:01.951-04:002009-05-26T22:20:01.951-04:00ugh i am so sorry hon. to constantly be disregard...ugh i am so sorry hon. to constantly be disregarded and discarded by the family hurts enough, and i can imagine how crushing it is to lose your one trump card. it's a shame K's family spoils some kids, and yet ignores your existence, practically. big hugs to you. <br />in my own experiences with horrible family, ive learned to accept that they suck, and will always suck. getting through life without any support (emotional or financial) from parents is so hard, and not the way it was supposed to be. but somehow we will all manage, and bitch to each other about it through the process. :)<br /><br />im really sorry. your story broke my heart, and i would be right there with you, crying to the point of hangover. **hugs**Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10365630410394672256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-1563942993134407182009-05-26T13:30:57.525-04:002009-05-26T13:30:57.525-04:00Oh I just knew that was coming. Shit heaped upon s...Oh I just knew that was coming. Shit heaped upon shit. It must hurt like hell. So sorry.veenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-86810648525418156972009-05-26T13:00:44.845-04:002009-05-26T13:00:44.845-04:00Well, shitballs. That blows--all of it, the backgr...Well, shitballs. That blows--all of it, the background and the latest news. It seems like quite the mountain to climb, but I do hope along with the other commenters here that you can find some peace. But I do think you're under NO obligation to be happy for the golden couple!thebaohttp://www.baointheoven.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-27463871622232076262009-05-26T12:50:48.366-04:002009-05-26T12:50:48.366-04:00hello dear d
i just read your blog and i am sooo ...hello dear d<br /><br />i just read your blog and i am sooo sorry. i know how hurtful the family dynamics have been for kate and for you. don't let yourself get pulled down.<br /><br />thinking of youBeritnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-63375369208598415432009-05-26T12:02:16.553-04:002009-05-26T12:02:16.553-04:00How completely shitty. Soon you will have your own...How completely shitty. Soon you will have your own little family and it will be full of love. {{{}}}Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-66812591796349402012009-05-26T11:09:47.850-04:002009-05-26T11:09:47.850-04:00Ugh, I'm so sorry about this. What a horrible sit...Ugh, I'm so sorry about this. What a horrible situation for K and you to be in in the first place - it's so sad to feel loved less. And then the pregnancy...I imagine that must really hurt.<br />xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-90582997372257363802009-05-26T11:09:17.021-04:002009-05-26T11:09:17.021-04:00I just want to say sorry that you guys are hurting...I just want to say sorry that you guys are hurting so much. I knew the ending before it came because it (sadly) has become kind of a familiar one. Your post brought tears to my eyes for your pain and my own as well as for everyone else out there going through similiar situations. Keep strong.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12345127917830075696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-76447569892328297192009-05-26T03:30:37.222-04:002009-05-26T03:30:37.222-04:00Oh wow, that's some pretty tough stuff to be deali...Oh wow, that's some pretty tough stuff to be dealing with. It sucks all around, and as lame as that sounds I really have no more words to describe it right now. kia kaha e hoa - stay strong my friends.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-20437415425261781052009-05-26T01:59:08.517-04:002009-05-26T01:59:08.517-04:00I am so sorry you are dealing with such an awful f...I am so sorry you are dealing with such an awful family situation, and now a rival cousin for your (future) child. It doesn't sound like there's much hope of the family shaping up, but I hope you find decent ways to ignore the manifest unfairness of the situation.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15243054875237959038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-51798194051172923802009-05-25T20:29:48.265-04:002009-05-25T20:29:48.265-04:00I will happily vomit for you. I am so so sorry. Ho...I will happily vomit for you. I am so so sorry. How hideously unfair all around. Huge hugs and love to you both.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-4300749832886277422009-05-25T18:44:07.779-04:002009-05-25T18:44:07.779-04:00Oh I am so very sorry, I know what you are going t...Oh I am so very sorry, I know what you are going through all to well. Your post brought tears to my eyes as all those raw feelings of my SIL getting pregnant came flooding back. I hope the pain for you eases soon.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16696340051062851389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-72868641800349700162009-05-25T18:18:31.832-04:002009-05-25T18:18:31.832-04:00UNFAIR! The family's treatmemt of K and you is unf...UNFAIR! The family's treatmemt of K and you is unfair. The way they cater to other children is unfair. And the fact that the less responsible couple are pregnant is also unfair. <br /><br />I am so sorry and I have a huge knot in my stomach for you both. I cannot imagine how much you are hurting.cindyhoo2https://www.blogger.com/profile/00270674009271182588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-76837271364624127732009-05-25T17:04:18.156-04:002009-05-25T17:04:18.156-04:00f*ck. i am so sorry this happened. it happened to...f*ck. i am so sorry this happened. it happened to us too and it still hurts. a lot. sending you both big ((hugs)).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-65678565464259537142009-05-25T16:23:45.753-04:002009-05-25T16:23:45.753-04:00I feel really sure that your baby will be cuter an...I feel really sure that your baby will be cuter and better. Love to you and K!Next in Linehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09161821079608326520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-68714825538167946552009-05-25T15:12:08.205-04:002009-05-25T15:12:08.205-04:00ugh. i started reading this and just KNEW where it...ugh. i started reading this and just KNEW where it was going. my partner's family is really similar. at our wedding, partner's mother was supposed to bless us and she told a story about partner's brother instead. it's so hurtful. <br /><br />and, we, too, (although we know it's not a competition) did feel the same way about when we had the first grandchild. when they told us they were pregnant (oops! our first try!), we both cried and felt so sad and fucked up. <br /><br />it will lessen (or dull), but it sure does suck for now.<br /><br />take good care of each other.justinehttp://figboiler.typepad.com/figboiler/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-91551170602057181382009-05-25T15:01:33.888-04:002009-05-25T15:01:33.888-04:00Oh, I knew that ending was coming. Fuck, that's ha...Oh, I knew that ending was coming. Fuck, that's hard. When you don't think life could be any more unfair... My gut says, "Well, K may fight her whole life to be accepted and loved by her family, who is to say having a baby first would have made a difference?" but my heart just aches, aches, aches that she's been living in a family where this is how she's treated. Period. <br /><br />I have similar fears. I want M to earn that kind of love from her parents via a grandchild... fearing all the while that her republican catholic sister will beat us to the punch. <br /><br />Hugs to you and K.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-78000786797752967242009-05-25T15:01:27.001-04:002009-05-25T15:01:27.001-04:00I wish I had something better to say than, "omg, t...I wish I had something better to say than, "omg, that effing sucks." But that's the first thought in my mind. I'm so sorry for such a shitty situation. I don't know if it's any consolation, but at least you guys know that you're doing everything the right way. Karma, my friend. You guys are doing it right.AdventuresInBabyMakinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04791187104312323168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-57118502296038957402009-05-25T14:28:42.895-04:002009-05-25T14:28:42.895-04:00i am so sorry that K has had to live with that kin...i am so sorry that K has had to live with that kind of situation for all these years and to add this on top of all of it! painful :(mulberryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10722754636161775920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-55609819917891711672009-05-25T13:21:32.988-04:002009-05-25T13:21:32.988-04:00NO NO NO NO! Fuck it all to hell. This fucking s...NO NO NO NO! Fuck it all to hell. This fucking sucks. I'm sorry Puffer. So so sorry. That is just so unfair. :( :( :( :(tbeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06845011825238450567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-23946889783666720942009-05-25T12:23:53.513-04:002009-05-25T12:23:53.513-04:00Damn, that's tough. I always thought that since I...Damn, that's tough. I always thought that since I've been in a stable relationship for the longest, that I'd be the first sibling to give my mom a grandchild. But about 3 years she got serious with the guy she'd been dating. His daughter had just had a baby. We got to meet my mom's boyfriend's family last fall, when we all spent a long weekend together at the beach. I had just failed my first cycle, and this girl was visibly pregnant with her second child. I had to spend the whole weekend watching my mother doting on her pregnant stepdaughter and the two year old son. I totally sympathize with you.Gayby Rabieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01779637237846558012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-39546687616702577962009-05-25T11:51:11.629-04:002009-05-25T11:51:11.629-04:00oh this is so so so hard. I was reading along and...oh this is so so so hard. I was reading along and I Knew how it would end. I am thinking of you both. xoxox LAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-3433933255240186072009-05-25T11:50:38.287-04:002009-05-25T11:50:38.287-04:00Oh, god. I'm so sorry. It sucks so much to have je...Oh, god. I'm so sorry. It sucks so much to have jealousy like this. When my sister got pregnant with #2 (totally different back story and our parents have treated us equally, can't complain), it was like a massive kick in my non-pregnant gut. It's so unfair. And the fact that they are irresponsible and favored just makes it worse. I hope you find peace, so it doesn't eat you up. But for fuck's sake!Lizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18142542414035866385noreply@blogger.com