tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post5747455146294948286..comments2023-12-08T05:01:22.204-05:00Comments on Puffer and the Baby Fish: RocksPufferfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03534200400439443949noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-5082140771524862682010-07-14T03:11:44.633-04:002010-07-14T03:11:44.633-04:00I'm so proud of you for arranging help and pla...I'm so proud of you for arranging help and planning date nights! You need a break from your babies. It's good for the boys to get used to being around other people, too. It's truly a win-win.pugmammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08780110663223147249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-32230317319568998012010-07-13T20:21:12.586-04:002010-07-13T20:21:12.586-04:00I love your honesty. I can only imagine what you ...I love your honesty. I can only imagine what you are going through ... I had my daughter 11 years ago and it was tough. She had colic and there were times where I just wanted to scream and do crazy things. I got through it... 7 months of colic.. I got through it. I am now very newly pregnant (5weeks) and your honesty is what keeps all us moms together and know it is ok...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-80146529030835168322010-07-13T01:49:01.617-04:002010-07-13T01:49:01.617-04:00I've been thinking of you all day today, think...I've been thinking of you all day today, thinking about how alike we are in certain ways and how difficult it can be to ask for or accept help from others. I pride myself in being totally self sufficient and I know you do to. Allowing others to help is something that will probably be uncomfortable and take practice but I think you will be glad you did. <br /><br />Along that same line, I was thinking of how incredibly unnatural it is for us to try to care for our children by ourselves. It's only recently that women have been removed from villages, churches and families as they try to navigate parenthood. We all have each other for moral support here, and that is golden, but still doesn't offer the helping hands and close interaction that we need, especially with twins or more. It's a little sad. <br /><br />You have always been a very free person who could come and go as she pleased, a woman used to the thrill of adventure, but things have changed in a huge way and I can only imagine what an adjustment it is. You should be so proud of yourself for doing this and doing it so well. I know its more than anyone can handle but cut yourself some slack mama. Your doing a great job.<br /><br />Happy to know there is some help and relaxation coming your way. You TOTALLY deserve it!<br /><br />PS - Chickem rocks and so do you.<br /><br />xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-69715291449849557842010-07-12T23:23:00.580-04:002010-07-12T23:23:00.580-04:00**** none of my damn comments ever come thru.. i e...**** none of my damn comments ever come thru.. i even tried to email you @ pufferandthebabyfishies and it got rejected.. SERIOUSLY.. <br /><br />take HN for all she's worth.. get some rest.. things will be better/easier of course soon but until you are physically stabilized you are not going to be able to fully enjoy those gorgeous babies and that is the most important thing. xo <br />cynthia<br />legaldoulas.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-10341137802633576812010-07-12T21:06:56.767-04:002010-07-12T21:06:56.767-04:00Oh, my law, you dear woman. I can barely keep my ...Oh, my law, you dear woman. I can barely keep my head above water with one.<br /><br />I like the sound of your new attitude. Try to keep it up. You can do this.Rocciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16240177887229400836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-53413141569946300262010-07-12T19:20:22.774-04:002010-07-12T19:20:22.774-04:00You sound so much better! I didn't think you w...You sound so much better! I didn't think you were 'complaining' at all. It sounded like you were at feeling so overwhelmed all the time to me. You were being real and telling the truth. <br /><br />You might feel guilty at first when you take breaks (i did, too) but once you realize how much better you feel when you get them and that the boys are going to survive, you will learn to realax.<br /><br />As for the meds, the right med can do wonders. The wrong med can make you feel worse. Everyone is different and what works for one person in the same situation won't always work for the same person. I didn't realize I was taking the right med because I couldn't tell a big difference. When I took the wrong med, I felt a big difference (and it wasn't good) right away.<br /><br />Most of all, anyone who has been following you along for awhile knows how much you want and love those boys. We also know you set high standards for yourself and you are extremely hard on yourself if you aren't in the place you want to be. Don't be so hard on yourself. You don't have to be supermom. The boys are going still going to live and they won't remember it if you aren't. I promise! Just do the best you can.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-64677521208270948322010-07-12T18:40:30.701-04:002010-07-12T18:40:30.701-04:00I keep popping in to read all the comments people ...I keep popping in to read all the comments people share. How great that when you finally "broke down" you found a million other mommies smiling and nodding in agreement.cindyhoo2https://www.blogger.com/profile/00270674009271182588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-90438791515303550012010-07-12T15:22:08.421-04:002010-07-12T15:22:08.421-04:00I love love love that you are so honest! We all f...I love love love that you are so honest! We all feel crazed at one time or another. I have 11 week old twins and have read and re-read your last post...it makes me feel not alone. I even read it to my husband so he might get some insight to how it is to be home all day alone with two newborns. I have decided to stay home with the babies for the next year and I do the nights by myself since he works. You are sooooo right...it is hard! SO HARD! I cried last night because the new week was starting, so I am alone again. With twins, we always have guilt...one is crying and we can't get to it, one needs to be held, but we are busy with the other, etc...<br /><br />My point of my loooong rambling post it to say THANKS! Everyone wants to only hear how fun it is to have twins. It can be great and we are all so lucky to have our babies, but it is still hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-86594286818094852622010-07-12T13:32:11.582-04:002010-07-12T13:32:11.582-04:00I have written this post so many times in my mind....I have written this post so many times in my mind. You are NOT ALONE in any of it - feeling like you can't complain, feeling overwhelmed even when you have help, being so tired you want to commit a felony to get into prison so you can at least sleep for x hours straight. Seriously.<br /><br />I don't have any words of wisdom, since I'm right there with you, but I did want you to know that you are not the only one going through this and it's ok to complain.Mrs. Xhttp://akamrsx.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-34570783507106595992010-07-12T10:31:16.233-04:002010-07-12T10:31:16.233-04:00First ((((pufferfam)))))!
I hope you can find a re...First ((((pufferfam)))))!<br />I hope you can find a regimen where you can get some serious nap time and some extra time for yourself and your wife.You are giiving so much, it is time to get sth back to re-create the balance in your life. <br />Thanks for being real and telling how it truly is.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17041887260062460154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-89591080056981754542010-07-12T10:03:10.797-04:002010-07-12T10:03:10.797-04:00So happy you have figured out a plan that gets you...So happy you have figured out a plan that gets you some "me" time, gets you both some "us" time, and doesn't break the budget!<br /><br />Sometimes you just have to tell Chicken whats going on inside that head of yours. I know I would internalize alot of the stress on my own and then explode at the wife who would fix things immediately. Made me wonder why I waited to explode.<br /><br />and the fear...it is oh so real. I did have fulltime help (my mom and wife for the first 3 months and then it was me and my mom until I went back to work at 9 months) and sometimes there would be 1-2 hours after my mom left and my wife would come home that I would dread because I'd have to be alone with "them". It made me feel crazy that I feared my own babies. So I get it, you aren't the only one. <br /><br />It did get easier over time, I even started taking days off to be alone with them and give my mom a break. Now I cherish that time that I get to have them all to myself. I know you will get there too, it just takes experience. We've never had kids before, so cut yourself some slack. You are doing an awesome job!Two Moms, Two Monkeyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06265544246727297226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-54128172068184188422010-07-12T07:33:47.147-04:002010-07-12T07:33:47.147-04:00Just coming from LCFA and wishing you the best--I ...Just coming from LCFA and wishing you the best--I had PPD after both my children and getting help (medicine and therapy) helped immensely in those tough early weeks. Good luck!Delennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12567889031642608101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-68067662476847535452010-07-12T05:14:55.918-04:002010-07-12T05:14:55.918-04:00PS ... LOVE the babysitting credits = growing conf...PS ... LOVE the babysitting credits = growing confidence = date night plan .... WIN/WIN/WIN!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-70105965168704230432010-07-12T05:13:29.628-04:002010-07-12T05:13:29.628-04:00One of the things that comes through the strongest...One of the things that comes through the strongest from all of your blogs, is your gratitude for the babies you have, and that didn't come through any less when you said you were having a hard time. Whenever you get to that place again, remember the elation you felt coming out of the other side of it.<br /><br />I heard someone say "Don't wait for the crisis to happen before doing something about it" over the weekend (on a completely unrelated issue) and it made me think of you. I'm so glad you have such amazing support ... <br />Horray for Chicken, and Horray for Hot Nanny!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-4788003431234234552010-07-12T03:51:59.170-04:002010-07-12T03:51:59.170-04:00Jesus, I used a lot of exclamation marks.Jesus, I used a lot of exclamation marks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-55859396999196511792010-07-12T03:50:34.040-04:002010-07-12T03:50:34.040-04:00I have been thinking about you, and in this entry ...I have been thinking about you, and in this entry you said what I have been thinking: how hard it can be to be alone with two babies at first, but how necessary it is. I think th only way to realise you can do it is to do it!! <br /><br />After ours were born I felt literal terror at the idea of being alone with them. My desire to get rid of my MIL made me strong enough to say 'fuck it' and go for it. You know, it's not bad.<br /><br />I LIKE being alone with them every day. But I think part of that is that I'm pretty chilled - and that comes from knowing I get a break every evening when TMD gets home and goes on duty.<br /><br />You can do this. The longer you go on believing you can't the harder it's gonna be to prove yourself wrong!! I think your new plan sounds AWESOME - especially with dates thrown in!!! We've gone out alone once since our babies were born 11 months ago, fir an hour. We could use another date!!!<br /><br />Wishing you guys the best - and secretly wanting to see a pic of hot nanny!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-39388025218353851352010-07-12T00:06:11.837-04:002010-07-12T00:06:11.837-04:00I hate that. We can't complain...EVER...becau...I hate that. We can't complain...EVER...because we were the ones that "wanted" this so bad.<br />I think it's all bullshit. It's hard and we all need to and should bitch about it. I don't think that you love your kids any less because you complain about the hardships. I think you are a tired mom with possible PPD (LOVE me some zoloft) and someone who just needs some time alone.<br />This is the hardest time. It really is. Each month it gets easier.<br />Keep it up. Glad you got the support you needed.<br />You are doing a great job.K J and the kidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11768311213861195548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4714398462016533571.post-58767245455292449272010-07-11T23:22:44.048-04:002010-07-11T23:22:44.048-04:00I really hope that you CAN take advantage of HN, a...I really hope that you CAN take advantage of HN, and take that time, even if it's to do something like run errands. And I really really hope the plan comes through, and that you and chicken will get some together time, without the babes. :)Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17157239516168591352noreply@blogger.com