Thursday, May 1, 2008

BFN #2--Day 1 Cycle #3


So, it's a Big Fat Negative. I didn't even need to take a test this morning as AF arrived, just as predicted.
Damn.
But you know, I knew it. The universe said it to me loud and clear on April 20 in my bedroom. We were having the apartment painted on April 22 (had the appointment booked since January and couldn't really change it...) and had to clear everything out, up and off into the middle of the rooms and cover it all with plastic.
It's like moving without moving and it's Horrible. As we were deconstructing the bedroom, I realized with horror that I had
TOO MUCH SHIT.

Now anyone who knows me will laugh right now because you will be thinking "um, you just realized that?!" No, I didn't 'just' realize it, but it hit me with a force since I need to make room for baby.
It's not that I'm a pack-rat, maybe just a pack-gerbil, you know...something on a smaller scale. I like collecting things and I like saving things. Looking at things that I've saved and collected brings me peace and happiness and I have always hoped that someday I would have children who would spend rainy days looking at all of mom's old things and enjoying them immensely.
So there are things I just cannot get rid of.

Plus, I've moved around so much that this is my permanence. Since I was born I can count 28 moves. I have no childhood home and my home travels with me. So all these things that I collect are a part of me and most of them I just can't bear to part with.

Enter the Container Store. If I can't get rid of it, I have to find a better way to contain it! What the paint project became was an entire apartment renovation project and at one point I heard the universe scream at me to get all this crap done before adding something else--like a baby--to the mix. Call me crazy, but that's when I knew I wasn't pregnant this month. So, we went ahead and stained the furniture.

From the very beginning, way back in the cold, dark month of January, I had the feeling that May would be the month. We shall see...

Tonight I'm going to a birthday party for one of my best friends and I think I'll have a glass of champagne and celebrate! Yes, it's bad news for me...but someone got pregnant today and good things are happening all over. I have a lot to be thankful for and I'm going to keep focusing on that.

6 comments:

Lizzie said...

So sorry! It sucks. But fingers crossed for May!

starrhillgirl said...

Well, crap. May. Let's do May.
I have too much shit, too. *sigh*

giggleblue said...

i agree. let's do may.

oh, and my dp has too much shit, which has turned into me having too much shit. that's what happens when you fall in love. i would take her to the container store, but she's not at the point where she can "contain"...

insertmetaphor said...

I'm new to reading your blog. I'm sorry it's a BFN. You're right that May seems like a great month to conceive!

Kymberli said...

I hope that May is good to both of us. I like your attitude.

Carrie said...

girlfriend, im dying for a new blog post! i check your blog everyday. we have the same cycle and live in a parallel universe, it's so fun catching up with you! help a sister out! hahahaha. jk. ;-) xxoo